Monthly Archives: March 2018

Have you noticed how many self-improvement blogs are out there? How many promise to have the answers to our low self-esteem? 8 steps to your happiness. 6 tips on how to have a high self-esteem, etc. The problem with that is that there is no one cure. The only person who can make a difference in your life is “YOU“. I don’t want to add to those types of articles. images (2)I just want to let you know that you can think better of yourself, feel better about who you are, and no longer be afraid to shine in front of others. I was there myself and it took for me to get to the worst place of my life in order for me to make the most important decision I have ever made. That is to understand who I am and how my purpose on this earth is meant to be used.

I am not telling you that I have the answer but in order for any change to transpire in our lives, we have to make a choice or decision. Do I want to be like this for the rest of my life? Not all are born with high self-esteem and we all get that. But no matter the circumstance or situation you find yourself in, you have the power to get yourself out. For some, it may take days, others months, and still others years but we all have the ability to transform ourselves into someone that others, including ourselves, want to be around.

images (1)In sociology and psychology, selfesteem reflects a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. The dictionary defines self-worth as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” However, there are many ways for a person to value themselves and assess their worth as a human being, and some of these are more psychologically beneficial than others. In other words, our worth is determined by how we feel about ourselves.

I wasn’t always the person I am today. I struggled greatly to communicate with others, be self-confident, and to at least make an effort to change my circumstances. I haven’t fully succeeded but I am on my way and that decision has been the best. The decisions I made to get to where I am now, were to some simple, to others childlike, and to others possibly insignificant. That’s the beauty of self-improvement, you get to make the decisions that will allow YOU to succeed not others. You have to also let go of all types of comparisons. Comparing yourself to others just leads to continuous disappointments. You are unique and you will need to learn to embrace that uniqueness. And one last thing, success is how you perceive it to be not what others think it should be.

The key is to accept the fact that there’s no such thing as a perfect life.  There’s no perfect thing you should have already accomplished, and no perfect sequence of things you should be accomplishing right now.

stencil.instagram-post-2There’s just this moment you’re living through and what you choose to do with it.

I chose to make changes within me. That helped me to be in charge of my own outcome. I didn’t make huge changes. I made simple changes. I altered how I thought of myself by rewarding myself every time something went well. I didn’t dwell on the things I was doing wrong. I started helping others as if helping myself. I started to read more and just write down my thoughts about the day. Most importantly, I started just focussing on the here and now instead of the future or the past. This was probably my great breakthrough.

Now, I enjoy who I have become and others do as well.

e2b3f55af79c68411ce59d5577275aec--a-new-beginning-new-beginning-quotes-fresh-startWhen thinking about new beginnings, what comes to your mind? For some, a time frame such as new years, or an event such as a new job, new family, new relationship, etc. The importance of new beginnings is that it can be started at any time and any moment you feel you need a fresh start. The flip side to that is that is can also be difficult and lonely during the process.

One thing that makes it so difficult to start something new is that we don’t really know where to start. Yes, of course, the possibilities are endless. They are infinite, in fact. But that is part of what makes it so difficult to begin. Because where should you begin when you can begin anywhere? In the face of all that possibility, all that blank space, it is easy to feel a little intimidated.

And I suppose that’s a reason new beginnings can be a little challenging because, in addition to the fact that there are multiple ways we could begin, there are also multiple ways the story could end. We do not always get to choose our endings. In fact, most of the time we don’t. We commit ourselves to the process without any guarantee of how things will turn out. This is the great risk of living our lives: there are so many things we don’t get to choose.

At the beginning of a new year, or a new relationship, or a new job, or a new season, I think we intuitively recognize this: that no matter how many good intentions we have to lose weight or eat better or be more vulnerable or change that bad habit or pattern, or re-write a part of our story we haven’t loved, that we ultimately are not in charge of every detail, and we are at the mercy of so many things over which we have no control.

imagesIn the midst of the difficult choices of new beginnings, the one thing that keeps us afloat is a simple four letter word,”HOPE” In defining hope – to desire with expectation of obtainment or fulfillment, we see the answer to what can make a new beginning difficult can also make it promising.  We venture into this new process with the anticipation of meeting with good and exciting adventures and with an expectation of being fulfilled.

So whether your new beginnings are for the better or not, remember that change is never welcomed by most but you can at least look forward to something new and exciting.

Have an awesome day!