You Have the Power to be Better!

Have you noticed how many self-improvement blogs are out there? How many promise to have the answers to our low self-esteem? 8 steps to your happiness. 6 tips on how to have a high self-esteem, etc. The problem with that is that there is no one cure. The only person who can make a difference in your life is “YOU“. I don’t want to add to those types of articles. images (2)I just want to let you know that you can think better of yourself, feel better about who you are, and no longer be afraid to shine in front of others. I was there myself and it took for me to get to the worst place of my life in order for me to make the most important decision I have ever made. That is to understand who I am and how my purpose on this earth is meant to be used.

I am not telling you that I have the answer but in order for any change to transpire in our lives, we have to make a choice or decision. Do I want to be like this for the rest of my life? Not all are born with high self-esteem and we all get that. But no matter the circumstance or situation you find yourself in, you have the power to get yourself out. For some, it may take days, others months, and still others years but we all have the ability to transform ourselves into someone that others, including ourselves, want to be around.

images (1)In sociology and psychology, selfesteem reflects a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. The dictionary defines self-worth as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” However, there are many ways for a person to value themselves and assess their worth as a human being, and some of these are more psychologically beneficial than others. In other words, our worth is determined by how we feel about ourselves.

I wasn’t always the person I am today. I struggled greatly to communicate with others, be self-confident, and to at least make an effort to change my circumstances. I haven’t fully succeeded but I am on my way and that decision has been the best. The decisions I made to get to where I am now, were to some simple, to others childlike, and to others possibly insignificant. That’s the beauty of self-improvement, you get to make the decisions that will allow YOU to succeed not others. You have to also let go of all types of comparisons. Comparing yourself to others just leads to continuous disappointments. You are unique and you will need to learn to embrace that uniqueness. And one last thing, success is how you perceive it to be not what others think it should be.

The key is to accept the fact that there’s no such thing as a perfect life.  There’s no perfect thing you should have already accomplished, and no perfect sequence of things you should be accomplishing right now.

stencil.instagram-post-2There’s just this moment you’re living through and what you choose to do with it.

I chose to make changes within me. That helped me to be in charge of my own outcome. I didn’t make huge changes. I made simple changes. I altered how I thought of myself by rewarding myself every time something went well. I didn’t dwell on the things I was doing wrong. I started helping others as if helping myself. I started to read more and just write down my thoughts about the day. Most importantly, I started just focussing on the here and now instead of the future or the past. This was probably my great breakthrough.

Now, I enjoy who I have become and others do as well.

How would YOU describe your Prayer Life?

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All healthy relationships require regular and quality communication. It takes effort on both sides to express their personal feelings, and also be a caring listener when the other party is voicing theirs. Lack of communication is one of the main reasons relationships fail. Likewise, to have a growing relationship with Christ, we must be communicating with Him.

America’s National Day of Prayer is Thursday, May 7th. This is a time when many in the United States come together and pray to God. It is a great opportunity to get friends and family involved since it is a national event.

Here is an excerpt from a Ken Trivette’s sermon.  This is very interesting and there is a lot of truth to it,”Someone has said that seven days without prayer makes one weak. The weakness of our Christian lives can largely be traced to our poor prayer habits. Charles Spurgeon said, “Nothing brings such leanness into a man’s soul as lack of prayer.” On the other hand, if our Christian lives are to be strong, prayer is essential. Paul Billheimer said, “The prayer closet is the arena which produces the overcome.”” If we are to conquer ourselves and become the men and women God wants us to be, we must submit to a life of continuous prayer.  Paul urges Timothy in 1 Timothy 2:1 by saying,“I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them.”  The greatest example of this is Christ himself.  The bible says  in Mark 1:35, “Before daybreak the next morning, Jesus got up and went out to an isolated place to pray. “ Jesus began His day with prayer. Prayer was important part of his day and life.

If prayer was so important to the Lord Jesus Christ, how much more important should prayer be in our lives? Is prayer consistent in your life or simply only when times are bad? Will you make prayer a daily part of your life?

Try praying for a least 5 mins a day for 30 days and let me know how it turned out for you.

Are YOU walking in your own shoes?

Hello all – kind of an odd question to ask, isn’t it.  Most will respond, of course I am walking in my own shoes. But really, are you?  I ask because I went with my wife to see Cinderella. And as most of have heard the fairy tale before, when she runs out of the castle because she is running out of time, she drops a glass shoe.  The king to be falls head over heels over this girl and so he launches a search that allows each maiden to try on the glass shoe. As the story goes, the maiden who foot fits the shoe will become his wife.  And so the search goes until they finally find Cinderella and they live happily ever after.

In real life someone would have had the same size foot as Cinderella.  Many share the same size shoe but the point to this is that not all wear the shoe the same. The shoe you wear was made specifically for you.  Your uniqueness molds the shoe a certain way that once worn, the shoe feels comfortable to only you.

God has made us unique. There is only one of you in this world even if someone attempts to look like you. There is a purpose for this. We are not a coincidental occurrence. As God puts it in Jeremiah 29:11-13, “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.” Isaiah puts it a little closer to what I am trying to say,“To whom will you compare me? Who is my equal?” asks the Holy One.

There is only one YOU.  Are you walking in your shoes or in someone else’s?